wholly misguided. Why are people angry at themselves? First, invariably they have failed to live up to some standard. That’s what anger is, a judgment against perceived wrong. That standard may be bogus—needing a house that looks like the pages of House Beautiful; getting straight As; being able to please an unpleasable parent; having a textbook quiet time. Or the standard may be accurate—committing adultery, having an abortion, laziness. In either case, there is something I believe I should live